In a nutshell, it is self-deception.
This podcast clarifies my issue with the self-love crowd. They practice self-everything and stop at self-control. However, while they cannot control themselves, they want to control you or others. Just like Satan did not want to repent or control himself but wanted to control Adam and his progeny.
The verses mentioned in the podcast are:
“Our Lord! Give them double Penalty and curse them with a very great Curse!”Quran 33:68
He will say: “Enter ye in the company of the peoples who passed away before you – mankind and jinns, – into the Fire.” Every time a new people enters, it curses its sister-people (that went before), until they follow each other, all into the Fire. Saith the last about the first: “Our Lord! it is these that misled us: so give them a double penalty in the Fire.” He will say: “Doubled for all” : but this ye do not understand.Quran 7:38
And their purpose was to tempt thee away from that which We had revealed unto thee, to substitute in our name something quite different; (in that case), behold! they would certainly have made thee (their) friend! And had We not given thee strength, thou wouldst nearly have inclined to them a little. In that case We should have made thee taste an equal portion (of punishment) in this life, and an equal portion in death: and moreover thou wouldst have found none to help thee against Us!Quran 17:73-75
What comes out of you during a misunderstanding is what is within you. You might camouflage it with love, compassion, and sincere advice, however, love is deeper than words.