By Fedwa Wazwaz, Engage Minnesota. “Not to know is bad, not to wish to know is much worse.” –Nigerian proverb. A couple of years ago, I was in a training session in Edina. The instructor, who was from Texas, went out of his way to be nice to me during the session. Every now and then, he would pause as though he wanted to ask me a question that wasn’t training-related, but he would change his mind.